Fact sheet · Fertility
Boundaries during fertility treatment
Boundaries are simple limits that protect your wellbeing during treatment. They’re not about pushing people away. They tell people what actually helps. Tick the words that fit, cross out the rest, and write your own.
Type straight into the boxes, then print or save as a PDF, or print it blank and use a pen.
You’re allowed to…
- Keep your treatment private, or share only what you choose
- Say no to an event, or go for part of it
- Mute, unfollow or take a break from baby content
- Change your mind about what you share
- Have a day where fertility doesn't come up at all
Invitations
Showers, first birthdays, family events.
Unwanted advice
“Just relax.” “It'll happen when you stop trying.”
Requests for updates
“Any news?” after every appointment.
Asking for help
People often want to help. Be specific.
My update person
One person who passes on news, so you don't have to retell it.
What I need from…
Practical and emotional. Share it, or just keep it for yourself.
Kindness to myself on hard days
Results days, announcement days, cycle days. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend.
Getting support. Ask your GP about a Mental Health Treatment Plan for psychology sessions. Most fertility clinics offer counselling. ACCESS Australia (access.org.au) offers peer support. If you’re in crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. If you’re in danger, call 000.